There comes a point in every relationship where the magic has dimmed and what used to be exciting has now become routine. Now that isn’t to say it’s a bad thing, you two have just gotten to that comfortable period of the relationship. But that doesn’t mean that you guys have to do the same old thing over and over again.
Let’s face it relationships are not easy. Let me say that again because it’s so true: relationships aren’t easy. This is why in order to make a relationship work it requires hard work, love, and a hell of a lot of patience. But that doesn’t have to suck the fun out of a relationship either! Here are a few ways to light that spark a little brighter and keep your mate guessing (in a good way).
Why not bring back that sense of spontaneity? Instead of going to the same old restaurant and eating the same meal why not try something completely different? You could open up an app and randomly pick a restaurant. And hey why not dress up while you’re at it? It might feel like your first date all over again, minus all those awkward pauses.
Try designating a day where each of you gets to choose everything that you’re going to do. Consider it a (insert your significant other’s name here) day. It works almost like a second birthday and as a day to celebrate all the things your significant other likes. It’s a day to make your partner feel appreciated and (extra) special. Who wouldn’t want that?
If you want to try the traditional route, surprise her with flowers (her favourite kind) for a “just because” bouquet. But if she’s not into flowers, just surprise her with a “just because” thing. It doesn’t need to be the most expensive thing out there, even just doing something a bit different than your everyday routine would be nice too. Just as long as the action means that you love and appreciate your girl.
But at the end of the day it’s always nice to keep it simple. Instead of taking her out to a fancy restaurant all decked out (which is always fun) how about a night-in? You can even just wear comfy clothes, eat your favourite foods and watch a movie you both enjoy. It’s just a chance to enjoy each other’s company without all the technicalities. And hey, if she wants to take pictures to document this simple time spent together –let her! It means she enjoys this time and wants to keep it all for herself (and maybe the world too if it ends up on Instagram).
See, the thing that we all fail to notice once we’re in a long-term relationship is that while it’s all fun and dandy it eventually becomes comfortable. While comfort is always nice, you should never get too comfortable because that turns into taking each other for granted. Show each other how special your significant other is and that you appreciate them for loving you despite all your flaws and stupid moments.
Yeah, you’re going to have fights that last an hour or even a few days. But at the end of the day you both still want the same thing: each other. Why not show a small token of appreciation by surprising them with their favourite food or something small they’ve been wanting for awhile. It doesn’t need even to be fancy. Just keep it simple, keep it sincere.
All of these pointers had more than the obvious in common: it’s about moving forward together. Whether that be taking a class together or hitting the gym, or even trying a new restaurant –you’re in it together. That’s the way it should be! Don’t think of it as a drag if she wants to try taking a dance class together just try it out. It could be fun (or funny) and just another thing to add to the list of “things we’ve done together”. As long as you’re both having fun with it, it’ll feel just like the first time you made each other smile (awwww). But no really, doesn’t it feel nice to make your significant other smile?
And when all else seems to fail you, take her by the hand and slow dance to her favourite slow jam -seriously. That is a guarantee that she’ll swoon all over again and realize that hey, you’re not such a bad guy after all. Love doesn’t need to have all the bells and whistles. As long as you appreciate each other and spend quality time together while also having your own space too, that’s really all you need. But you know a few killer dance moves might help too.