For a brief period, the innocent flirtation between NBA player Andre Drummond and iCarly star Jennette McCurdy made them media darlings. However, some good things are destined to end. When this particular relationship went splitsville, it became fairly clear that the two were never meant to be. Perhaps it’s owing to their young age, but using their relationship as an example, we can learn a thing or two about what to do and what not to do when things go sour.
DON’T: Reveal intimate details behind their back
There’s one thing to kiss and tell, then there’s pretending that you had never liked the other person at all. If anything, the move only confirms your poor taste. McCurdy appeared on Pete Holmes’ “You Made It Weird” podcast and put Drummond on blast. She talked about their kissing incompatibility (“It just didn’t go great … no sparks. The mouths … the shapes weren’t right.”) and even claimed that his Twitter approach was forward, after telling the Wall Street Journal that she found it “gutsy and flattering.” She thought she had made him appear to be a clueless young man, but the 21-year-old McCurdy only succeeded in revealing some two-faced characteristics.
DO: Move on
Drummond was clearly the lover in this relationship. He was invested in dating McCurdy long before she even knew who he was, often tweeting that she was his Woman Crush Wednesday (a recurring theme among NBA players). Within the first few weeks of hanging out, he even got down on one knee to propose… that she be his girlfriend. Thus, it could not have been hard for the guy to do something remarkably mature for a 20-year-old: move on. A visibly teary-eyed Drummond posted this Vine video a few days ago to announce that he’s learning from his mistakes and setting out for greener pastures, all without a hint of blame and (too much) drama. There are plenty of fish in that sea—especially if you play for the Pistons.
DON’T: Don’t leak racy photos (seriously)
The jury’s out on whether Drummond’s the party responsible (he claims he isn’t), but McCurdy has been the victim of a leak of racy photos of her wearing lingerie. She knows who it is, too. We won’t link to them, as any such action is not only a clear violation of trust, but illegal in some cases. A Texas woman recently won a $500,000 case against a man who had bitterly posted videos and pictures of her taken during the period of their relationship. If you’re utterly convinced that’s a grey area, you’re already probably a walking relationship red flag.
DON’T: Make more drama
In this new age of dating and social media, there are a lot of ways to make a lot of noise after a particularly nasty snub. Drummond played the game right and didn’t do anything. He didn’t suddenly delete all of the photos of McCurdy and him on his Instagram account, he didn’t start posting mopey statuses and he certainly didn’t start fishing for pity online. Moves like that not only make you look bad, but your friends don’t want to see it filling up their timelines. Save the real talk for in-person with a close and sympathetic friend.